1. Sit catty-corner to him when speaking
Men sometimes perceive face-to-face interaction as an act of aggression, which often triggers the fight-or-flight response. But studies show that sitting catty corner to (or even beside) him so he isn’t forced to make eye contact with you lowers his defenses by short-circuiting this stress response. The result: he’ll be more receptive to what you have to say.
2. Turn off the TV
Men don’t multi-task nearly as well as women do. This is related to the fact that, in general, women activate more areas in their brain than men do when performing identical tasks. So, initiating a discussion with your partner while he’s watching TV or surfing the Internet means you won’t get his full attention.
3. Ask for what you want
Are you looking for a solution to a problem? Emotional support? A chance to vent? You’re more likely to get the response you’re hoping for if you spell it out for him. That’s because men are especially programmed to “fix” things, and it can be frustrating for both of you when a solution isn’t what you’re looking for.